The Tyranny Of Urgency Addiction
" Occurrence less than a conscious exigency to the important is an unconscious wish to the unimportant. "
Stephen Covey
Author: First Things First
Any of the following sound recognized?
" I want to spend quality time with you, but I have to work. I have this extent and it needs to get done. I know that you accept the location. "
" I can’t seem to find the time to exercise. I know it’s important, but after 10 hour days I smartly don’t have the energy for it. Conceivably when it gets slower. "
Today’s society has progressed to the point where in some work environments unless you operate with urgency addiction you are negatively judged. You are seen as a slacker not keen to pay the price for success and not committed to the generate. However it can also be a way that we perceive exhilarated and useful. If it gets strong enough we get disposed to the perpetual motion and being busy becomes the use.
In fact, being urgently busy has become a grade symbol. For some strange impetus we have consciously or unconsciously linked busyness with importance. If you are not busy how could you maybe be important? Willingly I am an lawbreaker compatible many of you rendering this article of being in perpetual motion and ALWAYS being busy - - with many imminent deadlines.
So what do we do about? Well first let’s lodge if you really have an urgency addiction challenge or not. If you do not have an urgency theory and oftentimes focus on the important things, than odds are that you know someone who has some level of urgency addiction so this information can serve them.
The following questions are not meant to be a scientific survey but are intended to give you an idea if you are letting urgency addiction run your life. Answer these questions on a continuum from 1 to 10 where 1 is Strongly Disagree to 10 is Strongly Set.
__ _1. I perceive restless when I’m not at work or disconnected from the office.
___ 2. I only do my best work when I am subservient pressure.
___ 3. When I am working on one project I am often rapt about expanded.
___ 4. I give up quality time with important individuals to handle something urgent.
___ 5. I seldom take a rift and often work through lunch.
___ 6. I endure subject when I am taking time off or relaxing.
___ 7. I am always on a time crunch, rushing from one urgency to deeper.
___ 8. The adrenaline rush from a new urgent celebration is more satisfying than the steady accomplishment of longer term results.
Obviously the higher the score the more you have an urgency mind - set or operative frame - work. If your total score is less than 40 you have a low urgency mind - set, 41 - 60 strong urgency mind - set, 61 + the preference of urgency addiction exists for you.
In real life it is impossible to have everything be in the reposeful, peaceful and important category. However the point to this process is for us each to be aware of where do we primarily operate from. Do we only thrive and operate from function to event or do we have a amount unfaltering life based on what’s important. The contrast is if we are always and constantly putting out fires it’s pretty difficult to utensil any fire prevention techniques or strategies.
For some individuals being intense is their natural inclination but we need to make the distinction between preference and have too. Addiction infers an murderous behavior or way of dramaturgy - - that is seldom if ever healthy. So the matter is, are your controlling your life or is your life controlling you? In the end our life is our authority and a expression of our own thoughts, actions and behaviors.
So how do we shift from the urgent, to the important? The challenge that we face with most important items which are non - urgent - is just that they are not urgent. They are activated with your input not the other way around where urgent items are demanding your attention now!
If you ever presume that finally you will be able to do what you really want to do, this is a hint of a required shift for you. Personally, I admit to having too much urgency included in my lifestyle and work but I also have an unprepossessed and plan that I am working towards that will reduce this constitution.
First are you bright clear about what is important in your life? And out of this list of important items in your life - what is not getting enough attention? Where are urgency items consistently taking way from the important in your life?
One simple example is email and spam. We become addicted to responding immediately to everything versus planning out and selecting our responses. I recently likewise a spam filter to my email saving me at antecedent 15 journal a day cleaning up this stuff. I also setup a time to respond to email quite than every 5 swindle sheet being interrupted by deeper apparent urgency.
I just ask you to take notice from your responses to the mini survey where you are with this latent addiction. Then step by step work your way through focusing more on the important and less on the urgent.
Decreasing the Tyranny of the Urgent
1. Acknowledge that a life built solely on the adrenaline rush of urgency is not healthy.
2. Respond to the survey questions in this article to decree your dormant level of urgency addiction.
3. Based on your responses to the questions wrap up how the tyranny of the urgent is affecting your life and decisions?
4. In your mind or on a piece of paper decree a list of the things, peoples and items that are most important to you.
5. Now compare your important list mentally or visually to your actions and behaviors. Do they match up? If not why not?
6. Take dominion and restraint for your feature. Even if you have an urgency based job coextensive a firefighter this increases the need that your issues of importance are included and planned for off line.
7. Be brutally honest about the urgent items you can plant, avoid or remove.
8. Give yourself permission to have a time of transition. Don’t stroke liability or have urgency about reducing your urgency addiction!
9. In the end, it’s your presumption and quiet of mind that matters. No one can, on your interest, can tell you the best, balance for you.
10. Uppermost all be honest about your where there is no personal benefit from misleading yourself.
Until next time, keep " Living On Purpose. "
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